Controlling the uncontrollable thought…

Ever had moments when the thoughts in your mind are running rampid? Sorta reminds me of a vhs tape pressed on fast-forward…oh wait .. you missed it..let’s press and hold rewind…. Never-ending~

I’ve had plenty of moments when controlling my thoughts, despite my mantra and relaxation techniques (and yes, even after counting the sheeps) have kept me up all night, have given me a migraine and/or have left me feeling weak and hope/helpless….

Controlling those thoughts are always easier said than done! No matter how many times you
1) tell yourself you’re wasting your time – it’s wastefull thinking
2) you wanna kick your own butt for thinking such nonesence
3) wonder if others are spending fruitful time thinking of you
4)wonder if your thoughts are credible, meaningless or if in fact, are real
5) wonder what if, should I, where would (who, what, when, where or why)….

Either way, the mere fact that you’ve consumed so much time strategically thinking of things that are uncontrollable is purely a waste of time because chances are, the end result will be the same!!

So what does one do to try to control the uncontrollable…

Simple answer is that you CAN control it – your thoughts, the emotions, the what if’s??

You need to remember that you are in control of you and what you allow yourself to think. Hey, I know this is easier said than done and that there will be some situations, life events, that will test you in ways un-imagineable…that’s a given!!

But what you can control – you should! You see, the human brain’s complexity is mind boggling; a mysterious organ, a muscle if you will, controlling every aspect of our body, our thoughts, our capability to feel, touch, smell and to make sence of simple thought.

If you’re thinking about something or someone, getting it or him/her out your mind is damn hard.

Here are some helpful steps I found online – hope it helps you because it has helped me ~

“1. Make a conscious decision to Stop the thoughts.

The problem is that sometimes we attach ourselves to certain ideas and problems, and we subconsciously get a kind of pleasure from going through a certain problem / issue. If we subconsciously keep inviting the thoughts, we will never be able to stop them. Therefore, the first stage is to make a clear and conscious decision to stop the repetition of the thoughts. Be aware of their negative impact and don’t allow them to come any more. This conscious step is an indispensable stage in controlling our thoughts.

2. Look upon the Thoughts as being Outside of yourself.

When we first try to stop the thoughts, it seems very difficult because they feel such a strong part of our mind. Therefore, the second stage is to feel that the thoughts are separate to our self. When a thought appears in your mind, look upon the thought as coming from outside yourself. This is a very powerful way to reduce the impact of thoughts on our mind. Once we realise our thoughts are separate to ourselves it becomes possible to stop them.

3. Who is it who listens to thoughts?

This is a technique to try and discover the origination of your thoughts. Whenever a thought appears, just ask yourself, who is it who is thinking this? What we do is to try and discover the source of thoughts. Through asking this question we realise that there is an “I” which can decide to accept or reject thoughts. By asking this question we will be able to stop the thoughts as soon as they enter. You are not a victim of your own thoughts, it is you who either rejects or gives life to thoughts.

4. Catch thoughts as soon as they appear.

This exercise requires a determined effort on our part. We need to be vigilant and watch every thought that enters our mind. As soon as we see a negative thought enter, we must immediately discard it and refuse to follow it. The more we follow thoughts, the more difficult it becomes to stop them later. Therefore, it is best to catch them as soon as possible.

5. Concentrate on Something else.

If we have a train of thoughts which have gained a stranglehold over our mind, the best solution is often to just try and do something completely different. Don’t just sit around, go and do something which gives you no opportunity to ruminate over your thoughts. By doing this we ignore the thoughts completely, and they lose there hold over us.

“Wrong thoughts are inside us just because we identify ourselves with these thoughts. If we identify with something else, immediately they have to leave us.”

– Sri Chinmoy [1]

6. Meditation

Meditation is the best way to learn how to control our thoughts. Meditation involves the art of concentration and quietening the mind. In meditation we not only try to control our thoughts but we also can bring to the fore our inner qualities of peace and oneness. If we can invoke the calming power of our own heart, then we use an alternative force to take the place of the negative mind.

“The mind has its own power, and right now this power is stronger than your present eagerness and determination to meditate. But if you can get help from your heart, then gradually you will be able to control your mind. The heart, in turn, gets constant assistance from the soul, which is all light and all power.”

– Sri Chinmoy [2]

We should meditate every day so that we can bring to the fore as much as peace as possible into our mind. If we only meditate when we are overrun with thoughts, we will find meditation very difficult. But, if we gain peace of mind through our daily meditation then we develop our inner capacities to control our thoughts.”

Love yourself enough to preserve good judgment and a healthy mind!!

Love, Lanette



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